It has been my experience, that when my mind stills, my heart opens.
It wasn’t always that way.
Years ago being alone left me feeling restless. I always wanted to be going somewhere, surrounded by people, never sitting still. And there was “the revolving boyfriend door” era, where ending a relationship signaled permission to begin a new one.
No, spending time alone has not always been my thing.
Eventually it caught up to me. Somewhere early on in my separation from my first husband I realized I really didn’t know who I was; a pretty grim prospect given I was 26, headed toward divorce and the mother of a three year old. But that single epiphany was perhaps one of the most vital of realizations because it eventually led me toward wholeness that, for the most part, is sustainable.
I started out slow.
Time alone in my condo when my son was with his father. A trip to the coffee shop to sit, write and think. A day skiing at the local mountain. Oh I still filled plenty of my hours surrounded by people but, eventually I craved the time tucked away in my own thoughts to think, feel and be.
This short film encapsulates the essence of creating time for oneself…I hope you enjoy, How to be Alone, created by Andrea Dorfman.