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Make a Splash

Jan 10, 2016 By elinwaldal 29 Comments

List. EsWaldalThe alarm sounds, the mind wakes up, and unless we are on vacation, our to-do list unfurls itself in our head. We roll out of bed, What do I have to do today?…

The unfurled list follows us to the bathroom, joins us in the shower and then rides shotgun as we make our way through our day.

A few years ago a woman I knew and cared about died. Although we weren’t super close, I considered her a friend. Our boys had played together when they were younger. She volunteered. She was a loyal Green Bay Packers fan. She collected candy every Halloween for the military. She had a contagious laugh. She loved her husband. She loved her son. She was in love with her life. She survived cancer.

Then, years later, cancer survived her.

We went to her funeral. Her Rabbi knew her well, so well that he told stories that made all of us laugh until we cried. The room was packed; countless people had shown up to honor her, she had not only touched them, but the life she lived had made a difference.

When the service finished, we made our way toward the doors of the Synagogue to leave. I found my eyes landing on one person after another, many we knew, others we didn’t, and as we navigated through the sea of people, I wondered about Linda’s list. All her to-do’s, dreaded or not, would be left undone.

And as we walked to the car, I thought about all the people I had loved and lost. The countless lives cut short from illness, car accidents, even drugs. It occurred to me that chances were good that any one of them would have given anything to live one more day–list and all.

One can only guess, but I’m going to go out on a limb here, I bet if they received one more day they wouldn’t spend it being hung up on what they “had” to do. Nope. Pretty sure they would reframe their mindset and instead say “Look at all I get to do today.”

Get. One little word. Huge difference.EWaldal Photo. Window

The word “get” reminds us not to squander our time. It invites us to connect with people. And if we are lucky, it allows us to not only understand the true fortune that living another day is, but to feel it.

So what can we do?

We can refuse to sit on the sideline of our own life. We can seek out the extraordinary. Find and extend joy. Shake off the blues. Tear down the boundaries that hold us back. Right a wrong. Apologize. Forgive. Love. Extend permission to ourselves to call our shots. Find ways to be still. Be of service. Use our voice. Have and express gratitude.

The word “get” says: Go ahead and live. Jump in with all your heart. Make a splash, the ripples you create will tell the story of your life.

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Filed Under: Life Lessons Tagged With: Death, Life, Living, To-do list

Comments

  1. Haralee says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 8:08 am

    I love the change in mind set of ‘get to’ instead of ‘have to’!
    Haralee recently posted…I AM Not A PacifistMy Profile

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:42 pm

      Glad you liked it, thank you!

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  2. Cheryl Nicholl says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 8:18 am

    This is awesome and so simple! Of course! It’s the ‘Get’. Brilliant.
    Cheryl Nicholl recently posted…Shedding Light On ResolutionsMy Profile

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:43 pm

      Thanks Cheryl!

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  3. Carol Cassara says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 8:48 am

    This change of orientation means everything, when it comes to living a full life. Yes, GET.
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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      🙂

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  4. Tam Warner Minton says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 8:52 am

    We never know how long we have….and mortality is letting us know we don’t have forever. David Bowie passed yesterday?!!!! I wake up and am glad it’s not me…at least not today…or right now, rather.
    Tam Warner Minton recently posted…Blackstar Shining: My Tribute to David Bowie, The Other Man Who Raised MeMy Profile

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:44 pm

      So true, we don’t know how many days we get, best to live them fully and with gratitude too.

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  5. Beth Havey says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 9:00 am

    Funerals always make me think of my future, of my very life. I am saddened for the person who has left this earth, but often plunged into doubt about my time left here and how I am using it. Thanks for sharing your feelings.

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      So true Beth, they really do make one ponder, I have the sense that you cherish your time here and use it well. Thanks for being here today.

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      • Beth Havey says

        Jan 11, 2016 at 12:56 pm

        Thanks again for your comment. I wrote back and hope that you got my response. Having some trouble with the guts of my blog, working to clear it up, Beth
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  6. Roxanne Jones says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 9:31 am

    Yes, “get” to! It changes the entire focus, making us view our “obligations” as blessings. I’m grateful I get to have deadlines, because it means my medical writing services are in demand. I’m glad I get to clean my house, because it means I have a house to live and take pride in. I’m happy I get to load the dishwasher, because it means I shared a satisfying meal with my husband. Great reminder, Elin!

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:47 pm

      Oh how I love your list, Roxanne! Thank you for sharing all the things you get to do and why they have meaning too, beautiful!

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  7. Roz Warren says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 9:53 am

    Inspiring! Amazing how that re-framing shift makes all the difference. I give you credit for coming away from a funeral with an insight like that. I never learn anything at funerals other than that what a crybaby I am. (I always weep at funerals. Even when I’ve never met the deceased. It’s idiotic and embarrassing.)

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:49 pm

      I am a weeper too, I see it as a way of diving into the emotion and also allowing it to release.

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  8. Kris says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 9:54 am

    Elin, thanks for this column- I think about the same type of things every day, especially with Linda, who lived her life in a way I admire so much, taking advantage of everyday tasks, connecting with people and transforming so many of them into her friend. Love you too, my friend!

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:53 pm

      What a wonderful surprise to find you here today, Kris, thank you for taking the time to read and comment too. I’m with you, there was so much to admire about Linda, she truly embraced her time here and all the people that came into her life too. Love you back!

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  9. Ellen Dolgen says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 11:39 am

    Elin, this is so beautifully written. I totally, “get” it. You are so right, we get so hung up on our silly lists and petty life situations…this is a good reminder to live to its fullest – each day at a time.

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 12:54 pm

      Thank you, Ellen.

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  10. Lois Alter Mark says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 3:29 pm

    I LOVE THIS! Adding the word “get” to the “to do” list is life-changing. I am definitely doing this. And you could have a great product line from this, by the way 🙂
    Lois Alter Mark recently posted…the fringe hours: making time for youMy Profile

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 11, 2016 at 3:37 pm

      Now that’s a fun idea, t-shirts coming up! Thanks for the kind words, Lois.

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  11. Kimberly says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 7:32 pm

    So beautiful in it’s message and simplicity. Thank you for reminding us that we are so privileged to live every day.
    Kimberly
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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 12, 2016 at 9:33 am

      Thank you!

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  12. Carolann says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    Find and extend joy – I love that. Thanks so much for the post. Great reading and yes, get is my new buzzword now!
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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 12, 2016 at 9:34 am

      Thank you, glad you enjoyed it. 🙂

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  13. Rod says

    Jan 11, 2016 at 7:48 pm

    a direct and vital expression of one’s contributions and choices in life as well as the people who inspire them

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 12, 2016 at 9:35 am

      Thank you, Rod.

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  14. Ruth Curran says

    Jan 12, 2016 at 5:29 am

    How lucky am I that I “get” to start my day with your beautifully crafted, uplifting words. Thank you for that gift :)!
    Ruth Curran recently posted…Thoughts for the new yearMy Profile

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    • elinwaldal says

      Jan 12, 2016 at 9:35 am

      Aw, thanks, Ruth, love your clever play on words too. 😉

      Reply

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